Recently I read an article about how the best marriages are
a deep friendship. I completely agree with the thought of your spouse being
your best friend and how your marriage should be the most important
relationship on earth.
Drew and I have told each other countless times that we are
each other’s best friends. I have been thinking a lot lately of how our
relationship started and how far it has come, so I wanted to share a few of the
reasons I knew Drew would be the perfect guy to spend eternity with! (These are
all pre-wedding events J)
-In our accounting class, before we started
dating, I told him very bluntly, on numerous occasions, “The smell of your
maple donut makes me want to throw up. Would you hurry up and eat it?” He still
asked me out.
-The first time I went over to his house to
watch a movie with him, I walked into his room, and, reading the strange look
on my face (watching movies in a boy’s room had never even crossed my mind as
an acceptable option), he immediately put his futon into the couch position. He
waited until we were almost 3 movies in before sitting too close or trying to
hold my hand.
-He asked me to prom almost 4 months in
advance (to a high school girl, that’s a pretty big deal!)
-On my 18th birthday, he was
spending the weekend at my grandparents’ house, where I was living at the time.
Through the bathroom door, he heard me getting sick, and without any
hesitation, he just opened the door and came in to check on me. Of course I was
completely humiliated, but it’s nice to have someone by your side when you are
that miserable. He stuck by me over the next three days, as I battled the worst
stomach flu of my life, and it didn’t scare him away at all!
-He taught me how to drive a stick shift
without making me cry! This was a pretty big deal to me, because the two people
who had tried previously either yelled or laughed at me, and both times I ended
up frustrated and in tears! Now I can drive a manual with complete confidence
and some would argue even better than him….lol
-When I moved back in with my parents and
my sister and niece lived there, he spent countless hours playing on the floor
with her.
-When his parents’ comments actually had me
convinced that being with me would be holding him back and jeopardizing his
future, I wrote him a break up letter and handed it to him outside of his house
in my car. He ran inside, slammed the door, locked me out and got into a pretty
big argument with his dad about me…. He stood up for me and our relationship!
-I received a full-ride scholarship to a
Christian university out of state, and I really wanted to go, but I was also in
love with Drew, who was a year behind me in school. Drew never once asked me to
stay behind for him. (Although I obviously did….)
-He let me put eyeliner on him and use him
as the subject for a somewhat controversial photography project that would
later be displayed at the local community college. To this day, I have no idea
what ever happened to all of my prints.
-He proposed to me with M&M’s
-When his parents asked us to live together
instead of getting married so young, he flat out told them “No, we don’t
believe in that”. When they threatened to kick him out because he wanted to get
married he said, “Okay”.
-He spent the weeks leading up to our
wedding stuffing and addressing hundreds of wedding invitation envelopes,
bagging up a variety of pink candies into individual treat bags and tying them with a ribbon bow, and even
spent the 4th of July at our kitchen table with my dad making all
the centerpieces for our reception! Who knew that guys would be so much better
(and patient!!) with making topiaries…something he probably didn’t even know
existed until I asked him to make them!
-On our wedding day, we opted to have
pictures taken before the ceremony in a different location. On the way to the
church, he stopped at Dairy Queen and brought me my favorite flavor of blizzard
Of
course there are the obvious reasons of being able to trust him with my deepest
secrets and share anything and everything with him, but these are just a few
other qualities I value in a friendship.
